If you’re currently struggling with your relationship with food, it might be something that takes up a lot of mental space and makes you feel stressed and anxious.

You might find certain foods give you joy when feeling discomfort, only to experience guilt immediately after eating.

Perhaps you believe your love for food is holding you back from making “progress” or staying on track.

Food becomes either good or bad, with no middle ground.

But your relationship with food doesn’t have to be this way—you deserve a better, more positive connection with it.

Food is a basic need we all share.

Our relationship with food is also one of our longest relationships, beginning from the day we were born.

So I invite you to think about food differently:

• Food enriches our lives in many ways, fueling our quality of life both physically and mentally
• It helps us train better and recover more efficiently
• Food brings enjoyment when we eat something that is psychologically and emotionally satisfying
• It connects us through different cultures and social settings

I didn’t have the healthiest relationship with food for nearly a decade, starting in my late teens. Food seemed like an obstacle to achieving my goals—the body I wanted, the number on the scale I chased.

My relationship with food caused significant discomfort as I battled with the very thing my body needed most to survive. It became punishment rather than nourishment.

For years, I was trapped in a cycle of yo-yo dieting, overeating, and restricting, until I realised this pattern no longer served me and was keeping me from becoming the person I wanted to be.

From my experience, I know you can develop a better relationship with food too, just as I did.

The experiences and opportunities I gained when I stopped fighting with food—with myself—every day are endless and liberating!

I started nourishing my body with self-respect and appreciation rather than punishment.

I actually enjoy what I eat now and find a way of eating that works for ME.

I found joy in exercising, training for performance and enjoyment rather than trying to burn what I eat.

This has had a profound impact on my life as a mother, allowing me to enjoy meals with my family and son without guilt.

My life expanded as my obsession with food diminished—I’m able to show up and do what matters, working on meaningful ways to help others even when life gets challenging.

My connections with others improved because I’m more present when spending time with friends and family.

I’m also able to invest more energy in other areas of my life: education and other hobbies that fulfill me.

This wasn’t an easy journey and took considerable time. If you’re struggling right now, here’s my advice:

• Ask yourself: What experiences is your poor relationship with food currently stealing from you? This can become your “why”—your inner motivation to change your life and a reminder to persevere when things get tough
• Understand what purpose food has served in different ways, both positive and negative. Recognising that food helped me feel less lonely was a game-changer because it helped me find more effective coping strategies
• Be open and willing to try different tools. If you consistently return to dieting, increasing restrictions, or telling yourself you just need more discipline—while recognising these approaches never work long-term—it’s time for a change
• You need a strong support system. Find someone you feel comfortable talking with, such as friends, family members, or seek help from a coach, therapist, or a combination of both—this approach can be really effective in your journey.

I’d love to support you to find a better, healthier relationship with food, improve your performance and increase your quality of life. Please reach out to book a FREE consultation with me, we can have chat about where you are right now, no obligation whatsoever.